How to spot them, name them, and push back safely
Patriarchy isn’t just “men controlling women.” It’s a system of beliefs, habits, and incentives that trains all of us—women included—to treat men’s time, comfort, bodies, and desires as more valuable. Misogyny is how that system enforces itself: through dismissal, mockery, punishment, or violence when women step out of line.
Most of it isn’t dramatic. It’s subtle, “polite,” and easy to miss. That’s why the work begins with seeing.
In the next posts, let’s look at each one of the 12 everyday patterns of ingrained patriarchy and misogyny.